A resource for parents and teachers about loneliness and young people
What is loneliness?
Loneliness is an unsettling feeling we get when our need for greater connection is not being met – when we don't feel seen, heard, or valued by those closest to us, it can leave us feeling lonely. It is not about the quantity of relationships in our lives. It is about the quality of them. For example, you can be surrounded by people you know and like at a party yet still feel alone.
Supporting young people who are experiencing feelings of loneliness
As a parent, teacher or carer, there are many things you can do to support young people who are feeling lonely.
- Learn about loneliness.
- Talk about the feelings they’re experiencing.
- Encourage them to join a club that’s linked to their passion.
- Suggest they express how they’re feeling through journalling or art.
- Help them find an online group they can connect with.
How to talk to young people about loneliness
When talking to young people about loneliness, choose a private moment where you can give them your full attention.
Encourage them to talk about their feelings by asking open-ended questions like, "I'm worried that you're sleeping more than usual; what's making you feel this way?"
Be respectful of their feelings and offer compassion and validation. If they're not open to talking the first time, try again at another time when they might be more receptive to talking.
Parent wellbeing
Self-care is an essential part of parenting
Parenting is a rollercoaster of a ride – physically, emotionally and mentally – and as parents, we tend to prioritise our family's wellbeing before our own. For many, self-care and taking time to recharge our batteries feels indulgent, selfish or unnecessary when, in fact, the opposite is true.
When we meet our physical and mental needs, we are better positioned to support our young people, all with the added benefit of role modelling the importance of self-care.
Where to go to for more help
If your young person needs extra support, encourage them to speak to a health professional or reach out to any of the following organisations that can support you both.
